Description
This book is about BDSM and other forms of sexual expressionIt is all fact and based on my own experiences as a “Master” in the BDSM world for twenty style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">This book goes beneath that to show what really happens when one strays into the “darker side” of style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">What is BDSM? What does it involve?
Plus: some other sexual "kinks"
How can BDSM survive in the enlightened age of the “Me too” movement: What is "consensual sexual behaviour?" How does one consent to what some would regard as abuse?
Over a period of twelve years I met and interviewed some people who were involved in the alternative side of sex. This was mainly BDSM, but included many other areas
This subject consist of people from the world of BDSM, both submissives and Dominants
This included a wide variety of people, a Dominatrix (who had become a slave) and a transgendered couple (he had transgendered into a female and she had done the opposite)
This shows many of my experiences while inhabiting this same world, as a “dominant” and “Master”. I am not describing anything from the style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;"> My experience is from style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">My motivation is not financial, I simply would like to have these stories reach an style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">Perhaps that way there would be fewer people thinking they are “the only one that feels this way”. “Normal people” often feel this way style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">The image presented to the public of alternative sexual lifestyles is unrealistic and often style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">I describe my experiences, fantasies and perceptions while growing up, and my eventual discovering and entering the world of Domination and submission (D/s) and the curious characters I discovered at the back of the style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">Structure:
Eight People and a prologue (names to be changed):
Prologue: My story
Amelia: a submissive with a host of horror Comedies and Tears of a style="margin-left:18pt;">Bree: A Pro Domme who abandoned her lucrative practice to explore her submissive style="margin-left:18pt;">Nicola and Tony: A transsexual couple. He transitioned to a she and she transitioned to a style="margin-left:18pt;">Mary: submissive female who emigrated to become a “house slave” for a dominant couple
Sally: Part of a couple, her partner was also interviewed separately .She explored her sexual identity and moved from predominantly submissive to sadistic Domme. A fascinating and tragic dynamic between her and her partner
Handiman: enters right as a sadistic Dominant, exits left as a masochistic submissive. Part of the (featured above) couple
Sammy and Sarah: a submissive bisexual couple
Sub Zero Nothing: a single parent, living alone who tells a story of her submissive life. But is she making it all up?
About me: I’m a graduate in psychology and in my professional life I have worked with vulnerable people in a wide variety of challenging style="margin-left:18pt;">I have been previously published, mainly in magazine articles, including Back Street style="margin-left:18pt;">Platform/audience: Those people who are curious about human sexuality in all its forms. That’s most people, of style="margin-left:18pt;">Those people who have an interest in BDSM, and other sexual avenues, but don’t have any accessible reliable information
Those who would prefer to read what really goes on in kink relationships rather than read more of the style="margin-left:18pt;">Participants aren’t all size 10 twenty-something’s with designer clothes and million dollar apartments. (The people you see on TV are most often self-publicists who only really exist when the programme is style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">The people in my book are style="background-color:transparent;color:#000000;font-size:11pt;">Additional Elements:
I have photographs of the subjects in the book. However although all persons were willing to have their photographs taken, and were aware that they were being taken for the purposes of my writing a book I did not obtain model release forms from any of the subjects (I did not think it necessary at the time and am still unsure of this now)
I have the oral interviews recorded as MP3 style="margin-left:18pt;">These could accompany the book, on an audio style="margin-left:18pt;">I know that the subject matter is problematic, in the light of current sexual politics, but it isn’t exploitative. I allowed the subjects to describe their own lives and experiences, and this they style="margin-left:18pt;">Most of my life I have worked with vulnerable people. I have psychology qualifications and I’m a good style="margin-left:18pt;">In a world of titillation and fantasy I have tried to present others words in an honest and empathtic way