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Deepening Your Personal Relationships: Developing Emotional Intimacy and Good Communication
Deepening Your Personal Relationships: Developing Emotional Intimacy and Good Communication by Max Hammer (with Barry Hammer and Alan C. Butler)
Deepening Your Personal Relationships: Developing Emotional Intimacy and Good Communication
(ISBN: 978-1-61897-590-4)
Everyone wants to improve and deepen their relationships. The book explains how to achieve healthy and fulfilling interpersonal relationships by using effective communication, empathy, shared transformational development, and constructive conflict resolution to achieve this aim. Deepening Your Personal Relationships provides original, meaningful, and transformational insights that are especially helpful in understanding how to overcome our subconscious resistance against emotional intimacy and good communication. The goal is to understand how good relationships can produce enhanced levels of spiritual development, psychological healing, self-understanding, creative functioning, inner peace, happiness, and ultimately, fulfillment in life. A section on improving society through enhancing interpersonal relationships is also style="margin-left:0px;">Targeted Age Group:: Adults and Teens
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We authors were inspired to write this book because of our compassionate intention to be helpful to readers who are seeking genuine experiential insights that can help them develop fulfilling personal relationships, with true love, empathic experiential intimacy, and good communication. We also wanted to help readers understand and overcome the ego’s fearful resistance to developing such truly loving, fulfilling interpersonal relationships. Another related goal that inspired us to write this book was to help readers understand how psychologically healthy, loving relationships can produce greater levels of psychological wellbeing, spiritual awakening, inner peace, creative insight, and actualization of one’s fullest range of individual and relational human style="margin-left:0px;">
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Some of the basic components of a real, lasting relationship that will be discussed more extensively in this book (especially a more detailed description of the basic components in chapter 1) are summarized as follows:
1) Relating to the person and not the persona. One is in a real relationship with another individual to the degree that one relates to what is actually experientially real in the other person, from moment to moment, rather than relating to what the other individual offers up as a self-concept, or to the concepts, images, and presumptive interpretations that we project or superimpose upon the other. In addition, one must offer up to the other what is experientially real in himself or herself, rather than offering some idealized conceptual self-definition, or predetermined psychosocial mask, with which one is Growth-oriented rather than object-oriented: An optimal real relationship offers opportunities for transformational developmental growth of liberating new insight, leading to more fulfilling ways of functioning, or living, rather than being locked into predetermined ways of relating and functioning, as well as holding predetermined views of oneself, the other person, and the relationship itself. Openness to liberating new insights can significantly enhance the functioning of each of the individuals in the relationship, as well as enhance the functioning of the relationship itself, arousing what is most creatively empowering, productive, revealing, constructive, vibrantly alive, healing, transformational, and spontaneous in each individual, as well as in their relationship. Later in this book, we will also discuss how a pseudo-relationship, egoistic relationship, or object relationship is devoted to making an object of the other person, meaning the person views the other as a defined interpretive label and controlled possession, or an “It,” in Martin Buber’s terminology (reference note 3), rather than empathically tuning into their living energy presence and experiential states, or what Buber calls the “Thou,” and valuing the other individual and one’s relationship with them for its own sake, primarily, rather than just valuing them for the sake of some kind of egoistic gratification that they are expected to provide. That kind of predetermined, controlling way of relating to another individual restricts rather than enhances the transformational growth of each individual, and of the relationship itself, in contrast to relationships in which greater levels of openness, flexibility, insight, and creative transformation exist. When the other person relates to you with what is experientially real in themselves, it will naturally trigger in you a spontaneous experiential reaction, which if observed non-dualistically and non-judgmentally will yield creative self-understanding, (reference note 4), which in turn will serve as the basis of transformation into more fulfilling levels of psychological functioning, or psychological growth. (We are using the terms “creative self-understanding” and “genuine understanding of others” to refer to insights that come from direct experience and from openness to the deepest core of one’s own being–unrestricted and undistorted by any preconceived interpretive presumptions). In contrast to a growth-oriented relationship, an object relationship exists if one relates primarily not to the whole person, but rather, to the particular aspect of another person that one can exploit for one’s own gratification. In such a relationship, there is an attempt to prevent the other person from outgrowing old habits and growing in real self-understanding and self-transformation because that prevention of growth guarantees that one will not lose the particular aspect of the other individual that one is using for self-gratification. For example, a dependent person makes you feel strong, so you do not want her to outgrow her Unconditional acceptance of the whole person: One is open to and non-judgmentally accepting of the whole of the other person, and not just focusing selectively upon whatever partial aspects of them relate to one’s own perceived need for gratification. Unless you are first able to accept yourself unconditionally, you are not free to accept the other person unconditionally, and be in a real relationship with them. For example, if you label yourself as weak and insecure, and you seek to compensate for those traits through the relationship, you will look for and accept only strength and security in the other individual, and reject all other contradictory love is not selective, not a positive value judgment, not a conditional intense favorable valuing, an extreme approval, a conditional acceptance, of preferred or desired partial aspects of the other individual, but, rather, love is an unconditional acceptance of and appreciative empathic attunement to the whole other person, including their indivisible whole life energy presence, and all of its natural expressions and genuine experiential aspects. The whole of the other person is perfect to us, or beyond conditional approval and disapproval, but not perfect as an idealized image of unrealistic infatuation projected onto the other individual, conditionally value judged extremely positively, or extremely favorably, for partial aspects of him or herself that conform to our own selective preferences, expectations, needs, and fantasies; instead, the beloved is unconditionally accepted as being of absolute value as a living energy presence. When we truly love someone, we do not conditionally value them only when they conform to our own selective needs, expectations, needs, and fantasies; instead, the beloved is unconditionally accepted as being of absolute value as a living energy truly love someone is to relate to, appreciate, and cherish what is actually, naturally real in them, rather than projecting imaginary idealized images and valuing that in them. We intuitively recognize that the beloved simply feels right for us, they simply belong with us, their energy presence feels like a naturally compatible “good fit” with ours. We intuitively recognize a deep sense of mutual inner familiarity with the distinctive life energy presence of the other individual, so our love or caring is not dependent or conditional upon the other individual conforming to some kind of idealized image of perfection, demanding expectations, or preconceived roles. That intuited sense of natural relatedness of being, inherent belonging, or inner familiarity enables individuals to remain unselfishly devoted to one another and to unconditionally remain together “for better or for worse,” as suggested by the traditional marriage vow, but also applicable to other kinds of non-marital caring love is enduring, not temporary, for it is not dependent upon any conditional reason (there is no “I love you it is not conditional, because our intuitive recognition of natural relatedness of being or inner familiarity does not depend on changing circumstances or upon altering or distorting the other person’s natural real being, experience, and expressions. True love is free of conditional valuing based on self-seeking motives, so our love does not depend on, or is not conditional upon, having the beloved provide us with intense feelings of excitation and gratification (be they sexual, sensual, intellectual, emotional, entertaining, financial, We love the other person for their own sake, and are contented to relate to what is actually experientially real and spontaneously natural in them, regardless of whether they gratify particular needs, ideals, fantasies, and expectations that we may love is sufficient unto itself, and therefore unconditional, because it is fully satisfying to the core of our being, even if it does not satisfy the ego’s conditional expectations and needs. True love can be unconditional and without excessive self-seeking motives because it arises from an intuited sense of contentment, relaxed security, and inner wholeness of being, in contrast to relationships focusing on seeking gratification of insatiable, often unreasonable, impatient, intensely demanding needs arising from the ego’s basic sense of deficiency, discontent, or lack of intrinsic wholeness, security, and love is the essential core of life energy, it is the one basic comprehensive passion, which subsumes all of the natural constructive wholesome passions of life within itself. Perhaps all, or most, hungers, appetites, yearnings, or aspirations, are ultimately derived from, and satisfied by, the natural hunger to experience the connective energy of loving warmth in the core of the heart, as an optimal experience of wholeness, security, sweetness, beauty, grandeur, charm (wonder-full enchantment), and joyful love unconditionally accepts, warmly embraces, and cherishes, all that is truly real and natural in the beloved, because true joy, vitality, and beauty is found only in what is real and natural, and cannot be found in any kind of imaginary ideal or preconceived demanding expectation, which only imitates the true goodness of life energy, like a lifeless statue, doll, idol, photo, or portrait. The true goodness of the relational reality of life as love can be found, contacted, experienced only when we are contented to contact the immediacy or undefinable mystery of another person’s undivided whole being without superimposing any preconceived agendas of the controlling, selective, distorting, manipulative, No Manipulation. Manipulation converts the other person into an object for your own exploitation. Manipulation can be overt, viewing relationships as forms of combat, such as, battles to be won and objects or possessions to be manipulated, maneuvered, managed, controlled, which affirms the ego’s power to control, as an illusory sense of security. Subtle forms of manipulation can involve insisting on tangible signs and symbols of love, as a way of enhancing the ego’s fragile sense of self-esteem and emotional security, rather than developing the ability to directly, intuitively, empathically experience another individual’s love for oneself, without demanding such tangible signs and symbols as Communication and Understanding: A Real relationship requires a sense of existential relatedness, inner connection, or shared experience, derived from a mutual understanding between the two individuals, at any given moment. This understanding involves a process of empathic communion, producing immediate, non-presumptively mediated, experiential knowledge of the other individual. True understanding is possible only when communication is open, honest, nonjudgmental, non-evasive, and Commitment: For a real relationship to exist, or to develop, there must be a commitment to unconditional acceptance of what is naturally real in the other individual, without necessarily condoning inappropriate attitudes and non-constructive behaviors that are not intrinsic to the other individual’s natural being, but rather, acquired or learned patterns. Commitment involves being devoted to the constructive developmental growth and wellbeing of the other person, and to openness and honesty in communication even when it might possibly result in emotional pain, discomfort, or constructive conflict in the Investment: Investment involves a mutual reaching out to the other person for contact. Each individual must go outside oneself and give of oneself to the other, and not expect the other to go the whole way in bridging the psychological gap between the two. The investment is like a seed that we plant in the other individual, and permit the other to plant in us, with the hope that the other will nourish it with the warmth of their caring so that one day it will grow and blossom into a flower of fulfillment. The one in whom we invest is the one we entrust with our most fragile self, and we risk that the other will shelter it so that there will be an opportunity for it to grow or be outgrown rather than being rejected or buried by Compatibility of values. To accomplish deep mutual understanding and experiential intimacy, the two individuals must share a compatibility of values. Their primary value, that which they hold most dear, and are least likely to surrender, should be basically the same for the two, or at least compatible. Basic compatibility produces mutual empathic understanding of one another. Thus, the compatibility of basic values serves as the uniting force that connects the two individuals, although their more surface values differ. Even though, over the years, one or both individuals may grow psychologically, develop new interests and goals, or change in his or her bodily appearance, their sense of union or psychological connection is unaffected because it exists at a deeper Respect. Without it, a relationship is object manipulation. Respect involves permitting the other to be a separate and whole person in her/his own right, rather than just an extension of you. Respect grants the other individual the natural right to have interests, goals, and needs of her/his own, apart from you. You recognize that the other individual is not your possession. You treat the other individual as an adult, as intrinsically equal to you in value and freedom, which means not taking the other individual for granted. Although this other person may always do certain things for you as an expression of caring, you should not come to expect those things to be done for you, and should never demand anything. Instead, recognize that all that the other person does for you comes out of caring, not Empathy: This involves the ability and willingness to feel what the other person is feeling. It involves the ability to transcend one’s own psychological boundaries and to “stand in the other person’s shoes,” psychologically speaking, or to empathically tune into the other individual’s experiential frame of reference or view of reality. This involves the ability to perceive and experience the world, or particular situations and issues, as the other person does. Without it, one is not able to make full experiential contact with the other person, which is necessary to provide optimal understanding and experiential Trust. Trust involves a relative state of assurance that if one leaves oneself vulnerable to the other individual, he/she will not take advantage of that state of vulnerability to inflict emotional pain on you. Trust implies accepting a degree of uncertainty. It involves a risk or a feeling of some degree of vulnerability. Without trust, a real relationship cannot survive, because you hold yourself back in terms of what you expose and give to the other style="margin-left:0px;">Links to Purchase Print Books
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